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3 Steps to Success: Positive - You - Control

Updated: Dec 6, 2023

Here are 3 ways to have a great week . . .

It is Monday and we always believe something wonderful will happen so here are three ways to have a great week from The Whine Bar by Ally Brown CPC

Set yourself up to achieve what you want to …

- Frame your goals in a positive manner. If we frame our goals positively, we will see it more positively. Therefore, the path to the goal will be a priority, and its accomplishment will be seen as a win when it happens. For example, if you were to say, "I would like to get my post out by noon on Monday", you would know that you have until Monday at noon to work on it, you can plan accordingly and you will likely beat your own deadline. And you will feel amazing when you do! However, if you said "I don't want to be late on putting out my post this Monday", your focus would shift to not making the deadline. In doing so, the gremlins in your head would likely be coming up with all the other times you have been late, thinking of everything else you need to do besides that post and riding the wave of a self induced internal meltdown. Just the way the goal was phrased contributed to the successful achievement of it, or became a self-deprecating prophecy.

- Find the YOU in your goals. We are more likely to achieve our goals if there is something in it for us. For example: You need to create an immensely detailed powerpoint for your supervisor to present at a big meeting on Thursday. The problem is that you have zero motivation because you know that your supervisor is going to get all the credit, and you may not even get a thank you. How likely is it that you are happy to complete this powerpoint? You would do it, but, rightfully so, you would be grumbling the whole time, and probably for weeks after. However, if you think about it instead as but a stepping stone in your path to a merit raise, a salary level change, or a promotion, you may just be whistling while you work.

- Ensure your goals are under your control. As much as we may not want to admit it, there are just some things in life that are not in our control. If we base our happiness, our success or our value on whether we achieve such things, we are destined to be disappointed. For example, if your goal is to win the lottery on Friday, you're probably not going to be very happy when they read off the winning numbers. However, if your goal is to play the same set of numbers every Friday to see what happens, not only are you increasing your probability of winning the lottery, but you are also creating a fun little activity for you to do each week. By taking the goal from an all out do or die on one Friday, to a weekly event, there is a shift from the improbable goal of winning to the achievable goal of playing. Your perspective shifts from failure to winner, without even a dollar of lottery winnings being handed to you.



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