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3 Steps to Success: Make - Stop - Forgive

Updated: Mar 6

Here are 3 ways to have a great week. . .

It is Monday. Always believe something wonderful will happen so here are Three ways to have a great wee from The Whine Bar by Ally Brown CPC

Set yourself up for positivity and to find your path . . .

- Make the Choice to Be Happy. Yes, I said it, happiness is a choice. It does not happen randomly, and it is not caused by anyone or anything around you. People, places, and things can be perceived as what makes you happy, but those very same things can be perceived to be what makes you unhappy if you choose to let them. You alone are responsible for your happiness. So why don't you. . .

  • Start each day with a smile. Why? By just waking up, you are given another opportunity in life, a do-over so to speak. Why not smile about it - you smile if your team gets to replay the down, don't you?

  • Decide that each day is the best day of your life.

  • Be grateful for what you do have, for what you experience, and for the opportunities that you are given.

  • Look at everything around you as positive things in your life. . . yes, even how you look, where you live, the job that you have, or the cat that just left a hairball on your floor.

  • Choose not to allow issues or problems - like traffic, an unplanned staffing shortage, or stepping on the cold moist hairball - to get in your way of being happy. After all, it's just noise.

As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” Life is short, it's your choice how you want to spend your time.

- Stop Worrying. If you have an issue and you can fix it, by all means, please do. If you cannot fix it, if it is out of your control, then move on. No matter how much time, energy, and effort you put in, worrying will not change the outcome, and it will not solve the problem. However, it will make you miserable, it may make you feel sick, and you will not be able to accomplish what you need to do with any common sense or within a reasonable time frame. So, do what you can do about the perceived issue, and then let it go. To quote Mark Twain, “Worrying is like paying a debt you don’t owe.” Don't give away your power and your mental and physical well-being to imaginary scenarios that are being played out by the Gremlins in your head.

- Forgive and Forget. Being angry or hurt and holding onto grudges depletes you of your energy, your happiness, and your focus. I would be willing to bet money that it is highly unlikely that the person you are harboring ill will towards is spending a single moment thinking about you, or about resolving the issue. However, by giving life to negative feelings and/or by holding a grudge you are giving that person control over your thoughts and allowing them to be a wall between you and the path that you want for your life. By letting go of the negative feelings you are taking back your power. Forgiving and forgetting is about freeing yourself, not the other person.

Whatever you do, just put some magic in your Monday . . . and in you!



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